Archive for January, 2009

climbing a mountain-

please enjoy this story & video
Sharing this story that I came across, and also the lyrics and video of The climb by Hanna

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IxqJ3uGrwhA&feature=related

As the story goes, there was a woman who spent her whole life climbing a mountain. From early childhood and year after year she climbed the steep cliffs and became adept at the motion of climbing. Eventually climbing felt as natural as breathing to her. One day she reached the top of the mountain and couldn’t wait to conquer another mountain. As she looked out over the horizon from the top of the mountain all she saw was a beautiful blue lake stretching as far as her eyes could see. Being a climber all of her life she’d never seen a lake and wasn’t sure what it was. She was attracted to the strange blue expanse concluding it was some kind of blue mountain. Since the only way to continue her journey was to cross over the blue form, she decided that’s what she’d do.

She walked to the water and began trying to “climb the lake.” The only motion she knew was what she’d used to climb the mountain. She couldn’t understand why she wasn’t making any progress. She mustered all of her energy and tried “climbing” harder, faster, stronger . . . her fingers grasping the blue water, her legs pumping up and down as she was so used to doing. Her efforts were useless; she wasn’t going anywhere.

One day as she was “climbing” she noticed another person floating by on top of the blue water with only the slightest movement of his arms and legs. He saw the woman struggling in the water and called out to her. After she told him she was climbing the lake, he shared with her the only way to travel through the water was to swim.

Being such an experienced climber, the woman insisted there was some way for her to climb the lake. The man acknowledged her prowess in climbing and explained there was another skill needed here.

“I’m sure you are an excellent climber,” the man of the lake replied politely. “That skill won’t help you here in the water. It took one kind of wisdom to get you to the top of the mountain; you had to make your power stronger than the mountain. Now you need to learn another kind of wisdom to get across the lake: You need to surrender to the power of the water and allow it’s force to be stronger than you. You don’t have to try hard. In fact, the less you try, the better you’ll do!”

A pretty simple message, really. (Aren’t the most profound messages and lessons often the simplest?) We’ve all learned a way of living and have acquired skills that make it easier for us to move forward in our lives. We have a wisdom we carry with us and we apply our wisdom to circumstances and events in our lives.

One definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting to get different results. The woman of the lake was acting insane. She climbed and climbed the lake expecting to get to the other side.

All she needed was to do something different. For the woman to cross the lake, she had to learn to swim , to move out of her comfort zone of climbing. You can bet she wasn’t comfortable when she started swimming. As she ontinued, though, she gained confidence, strength and power in the skill of swimming. The next time the woman comes to a mountain or a lake, she’ll have the power and wisdom to climb over or swim through. If she encounters something new, she’ll have the flexibility to climb, swim or earn something totally different.

Apply this lesson to your own life. Where are you struggling or doing the same thing over and over expecting to get different results? What is the strength you need right now that’s different from the strength you’ve been using effortlessly – though getting nowhere?

Focus on a new (or rediscovered) wisdom you could benefit from in your life right now. What needs to change? This could be anything from meeting new people to learning a specific skill to changing your responses to others. Be flexible. Acknowledge you have a great wisdom already that’s allowed you to get to where you are today AND there’s something more for you to learn.

“Climbing the Mountain” is a marvelous metaphor for how so many of us live our lives. It is also a great model for what is possible for us when we choose to look at other options.

You are at choice always. In coaching we say struggle is optional. It’s true and it’s amazing how many of us choose to struggle. There is another way. Choose to surrender to the lake and learn to swim. Whatever mountain you are ooking up at or lake you are standing at the shore of, you have what you need. The wisdom is inside you. Learn the ower of strength and surrender, of wisdom and questions.

The scale won’t budge!

I came across this article in prevention.com and learn that you can reach a plateau stage even only if you just been  in your diet for a few weeks

” Louis Aronne, MD, president of the North American Association for the Study of Obesity and a clinical professor of medicine at Weill Cornell Medical College. The reason: As you lose weight, you may also lose muscle, leading to a slower metabolism, making it harder to burn fat.

Other related issues can contribute to weight plateus such as “Age-related influences–a decreased metabolism, shifting hormones, and lifestyle changes

I learned that once you hit 30′’s“Your metabolism slows by about 5% each decade” He said we can try a “temporary protein push” reason to this is becuase we don’t want to lose more muscle as go into a diet to lose weight. 

A reasearch conducted by New Baylor University  found that 80 women who followed a diet of about 55% protein for 14 weeks lost 2.6 pounds more body fat than those who followed a more traditional 55% carbohydrate plan.

The woman were able to maintain their muscle mass and were able to keep their metabolism elevated.  They ate low fat protein such as chicken, fish, and eggs whites and they cut back 25% of the calories they ate daily.

One of the biggest mistake we make is that we focus to much on cardio and not on lifting weights to build muscle. Pump the Iron, we can just do one set of 12 reps and just make sure that the weights are heavy enough that our muscles feel they can’t do no more, then we need to move a little to activate the level of increment.

This part is funny though to weigh ourselves monltyh because weekly weight in can sabotage our weight loss efforts discouraging you and leading you to a eating binge.  Also states we should weigh in at the same time each month on the 7th day after your menstrual cyle because we tend to have less water retention.
 Perimenopause also can make it hard to lose weight because of the shifting of hormone levels.  These changes can start as early as 35 yrs old or as late as 50 yrs old. Symptoms you might experience are hot flashes, mood swings, night sweats, headaches and dry skin this is due to the elevation of estrogen rising and falling.  Stress causes cortisol hormone to stimulate the production of body fat hormone insulin.  We can exercise more intense by adding interval training or high intense moves in our workouts.This is there example

 if you usually walk at a 15-minutes-per-mile pace, add a 30-second interval of speedwalking every 3 minutes. Try circuit training, where you complete one set of 8 to 10 exercises one after another with little or no rest in between. “Unlike regular strength training, this form of exercise keeps your heart rate up throughout your workout, which helps you burn more calories,” says Westcott. One easy way to circuit-train is to simply go down the rows of fitness machines in your gym, doing 12 reps of each.
 

They say that once you hit perimenopause you become more insulin resistant so and tend to produce more insulin causing fat cells to malfunction  so Go for good carbs. eating rich whole grains, veggies that are nonstarchy, protein and healthy fats and stay away from the refined grains sugars and flour.  Get your daily moo. calcium is a magic ingredient that serves as a swith and helps your body to burn fat quicker.

Having a positive attitude is the most important weapon to lose those 10, 20 or 50 pounds

I finish this blog with this quote which is so real “I may not be able to have the body I had 15 years ago but I am working towards having a better one, that is healthy and is what really matters.”
 
 

what a beauty- some pix’s my daughter send me from her home{you can be what you want to be}

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You Can Be What You Want To Be

There is inside you all of the potential
to be whatever you want to be…
all of the energy to do whatever
you want to do.
Imagine yourself as you would like to be,
doing what you want to do,
and each day, take one step towards
your dream.
And though at times it may seem too
difficult to continue,
hold on to your dream.
One morning you will awake to find
that you are the person you dreamed of…
doing what you wanted to do…
simply because you had the courage
to believe in your potential
and to hold on to your dream.

24 Things To Always Remember…and One Thing To Never Forget

Your presence is a present to the world.
You’re unique and one of a kind.
Your life can be what you want it to be.
Take the days just one at a time.

Count your blessings, not your troubles.
You’ll make it through whatever comes along.
Within you are so many answers.
Understand, have courage, be strong.

Don’t put limits on yourself.
So many dreams are waiting to be realized.
Decisions are too important to leave to chance.
Reach for your peak, your goal, your prize.

Nothing wastes more energy than worrying.
The longer one carries a problem,
the heavier it gets.
Don’t take things too seriously.
Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.

Remember that a little love goes a long way.
Remember that a lot… goes forever.
Remember that friendship is a wise investment.
Life’s treasures are people… together.

Realize that it’s never too late.
Do ordinary things in an extraordinary way.
Have health and hope and happiness.
Take the time to wish upon a star.

And don’t ever forget…
for even a day… how very SPECIAL you are.

Live One Day At A Time

There are two days in every week
about which we should not worry;
Two days which should be kept free of fear and apprehension;
One of these days is YESTERDAY,
With its mistakes and cares,
Its faults and blunders,
Its aches and pains.
YESTERDAY has passed forever beyond our control.
All the money in the world cannot bring back YESTERDAY.
We cannot undo a single act we performed.
We cannot erase a single word we said.
YESTERDAY is gone.
The other day we should not worry about is TOMORROW;
With its possible adversities, its burdens, its larger promise.
TOMORROW is also beyond our immediate control.
TOMORROW, the sun will rise,
Either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds;
But it will rise.
Until it does, we have no stake in TOMORROW
For it is as yet unborn.
This leaves only one day - TODAY.
Any man can fight the battles of just one day.
It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternity’s
- YESTERDAY and TOMORROW -
That we break down.
It is not the experience of TODAY that drives men mad.
It is remorse or bitterness for something which happened YESTERDAY
And the dread of what TOMORROW may bring.

Let us, therefore, live but ONE day at a time.

From: “Twenty-Four Hours A Day” meditation book

thankyou all for your support i really needed it-well i am a dress size less

I am feeling much better today, yesterday was one of those days that I really needed a reality check.  I been 6 weeks in my lifestyle change and for some reason instead of feeling like a winner I felt like a failure.  It so hard to have a self talk in a positive way when you never tried in the past to have one.  I only have talk in a negative way when I seen Me in front of the mirror and just seen dissapointment.  Now it feels even more harder because I feel I don’t have that support from my loves ones.   Don’t take me wrong if you didn’t give me that boost of support every day I probably would of quited already like I have done in the past.  But it would feel good to know that my loved ones notice as well or least compliment me once in a while as well.  I just got to put in this thick head of mine that they to busy with their own life.   I am putting alot of effort to change my old ways, I need to believe I can, and I need to take it day by day, because every day is a new struggle.

well I went to funtopia in te weekend with my daugther and grandbaby….I did eat pizza 3 slices and yes I felt the guilt…and maybe is why I felt like a loser. even thou it was thin crust and no oil dripping….just not being able to stop myself was what really bother me….I felt that I am not going to be able to go out and have fun…well the other food choices where worse I believe….fried foods, burgers, tacos loaded with cheese and stuff or BK’s down stairs.

after we left funtopia there was a fashion bug plus…so I wanted to buy a few things for me that I needed.  well for shirts I use to be a 30-32 size and pants 26-28 size.   In shirts I am down to a 26-28 and in pants I am down to a 24-26.  I was estatic and happy at the time.  Even thou I only seen in the Scale 10 pounds lost I manage to lose one size down as well.

well today my friend from miami is hoping on the train from the city to visit for a few days .  I haven’t seen him for about 1 1/2 yr since I moved from miami.   I am happy.  Again, thank you so much for all the Hugs and support that I got from you all I am very greatfull of being a member of buddyslim because you have become my family….which I care alot for….H5 no more feeling pity for me….starting off with a positive attitude today…..

self + i = one

this morning i woke up very sad, and was crying non stop and could not know why or what happen that i was so emotional,  so i decided to write as for me me it helps me get my thoughts out is a form of therapy…hope you enjoy my writting, once i started to write tears clear up and i focus on writting…. 

 I had a talk with self regarding our health and weight problem immediately self got defensive
for years I let self be the leadder and I was the follower.
now all I want is for self to stop the nonsense once and for all
I am so tired of fighting self
why self have to be so sturborn and it’s fighting me on this constantly
self and I need to come to an agreement
don’t self know we need eachother help
self can’t make it without me and i can’t make it without self

all I want for self and I is to live longer 
when self starts acting up it uses all the energy leaving me drain
so self becomes heavier for me to carry around
self needs to stop the BS and see that what I want for us is the best

self is so mean to me that makes me cry all the time
it’s hard enough that self has emotions and depression, by it’s side
just leaving me with struggling to fight
sometimes happyness shows up but self immediately sends depression with a big wide cloud.
sometimes happyness gives depression a fight and stays longer with us.

I don’t know why self just does’nt kick depression to the curve  and chooses to be with happyness and I

when happyness comes along self and I laugh and have lots of fun
I  just can’t believe that self like to struggle all the time
why self just doesn’t give it a try

 

my journey

Going thru my journey,
In this journey I need to always be honest with myself.
I need to keep myself motivated and have a positive attitude.
I need to learn how to push myself even when I don’t want to.   I know is not going to be an easy road to take but
I need to make the necessary effort and learn not to skip the necessary steps.
I cannot rush things thru just because then I will sabotage what I have accomplish so far.
I wish I could just be able to move from my starting point to my goal point with just a blink of an eye.
but lets be real their is no quick fix solution or no fairy dust that will help me.
I must accept the fact that only time will tell.  Is like the main ingredient for chocolate cake is the chocolate.
During this journey I must learn to modify my behavior in order to accomplish all that I want and only changing is the key for that success.  I know that this change will alter my stress level a bit.  Days might not be as smoothy as I want after all I am only human and change can be unpleasant sometimes during this transition.  I must be aware that I could fail like I did in the past.  Many times I fell flat on my face. And I know that failure is pain and I hate going thru it.  But I need to overcome that fear in order to succed This journey is a lifetime journey. 

There many reasons why I want this change.
I always dream of being thin and physical fit.  I am so tired of carying this weight and feeling tired without no energy.  I am so eager to try to do things I’ve never done before.  Or do things I ones enjoyed.  I want these dreams to become a reality again.  Like go to the park and play volley ball like I use to do in the past. Go skating or even swimming or go for nature walks.  I want to be a living example to inspire others so they too can know that they can.

I want to build my self esteem. I must hold on to my faith and believe that I can do this, that I can win because only hope can make me overcome ruff patches.  I need to repeat over and over that I can do this ebrace it and burry it deep within my heart that is possible.

I order to reach my goal I must have a plan ahead.  I read an article that in order to reach a desire goal you must be specific, measurable, time element{deadline} realistic, and challenging.  So I know that I must lose 154 pound, I know that it will take me atleast 18 months, Starting with my start weight of 289.  So I am setting a smaller goals to reach the master goal..1 pound a week is realistic for me.  If I lose more hurray and if I don’t then I know I got to work harder next time.  Like that I will challenge myself to keep on moving for the big prize.

In my journey, you come to play a big role, you are my diet tribe hehee like the show but in reality.  You are the ones who motivate me daily, push me, and support me every day. You are my support for me to reach my goal.  During this journey I am winning 2 prizes your friendship and my desire goal weight that means more than anything.  I love you all!

H5 we can do this!

Goodbye old self & welcome the new me

I had to say Goodbye today.
To someone I’ve known all my life.
I had to say Goodbye to myself.

Not my true self.
My old self.
The self that used to be a big huge part of me.
Goodbye old self.

I will not list all the bad things about her.
I will not trash her or hate her of feel guilty about being her.
I will simply say Goodbye.
I no longer need her.

I have not been her for a long time.
I have not needed her for a long time.
It was finally time.
To say Goodbye.

The best thing about saying Goodbye.
Is saying Hello, to the new me.
The me that’s been watching over my shoulder this whole time.
Waiting for me to see her, to be her.

She’s been waiting patiently with love and a smile.
Guiding me, urging me, pushing me.
And now she is embracing me.
Hello new me!

today is my day-reward time

well all i am a new me today-yesterday is gone….what i obtained from it was that i was not alone my friends and buddies who care were there right by my side….your words,thoughts, advices and tips made me understand that i needed to look back an see the picture in another view….i gather my thoughts and advices you gave…to find a solution for my problem….for days i was caring on this.   well my spirit was down….and needed to lift my spirit….so i put on music…..cleaned the house and then got on my pro-cardio twister machine and didn’t get off until my legs were trembling….boy my behind was acking i couldn’t walk hardly…..lol but it felt so good….oh update i can stay on without stopping thru my whole workout now…..even thou when i am done i feel like i can’t stand on my feet to long…..

 well going out to cut my hair….tired of just not doing nothing to it ….then going to buy my weekly foods….to stay on op….and maybe go to target to see if i can gets some cloths to workout with….see you soon…..

ps: oh by the way my desktop pc crashed darn thing i have nortan 360 in it hope i didn’t catch a virus….all i see are horizontal lines…ask my daughter if she notice anything weird.  she faxed some papers…..only…well i might have to take it in to get it checked…..

H5 all we all can do this….together

i am leaving now…..

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